It's that period of time in between the time you first start seeing someone and the actual confirmation of a relationship. Sometimes it happens right after the confirmation. I call it the 'So Now What?' phase. You go from being super excited about getting to know someone new to not having anything else to ask. Of course there are still things that you need to know, but those things come about differently in my opinion. This is the part of the courtship where things go from 60mph to about 30mph; when the real pace is established. This phase is most important because it determines whether you are really going to actually be with the person or not. Now if it goes from 60mph to 0, then you already know that the interest is no longer there. I think 30 is a good pace to level off at. But as a girl, I find myself struggling with 30 in the beginning. You can't get me all used to certain things like morning texts, random midday texts, and phone calls only to stop doing a few of those things. That's when the questions come: are we really compatible? Or am I moving on down his dating totem pole? Should I focus on BillyBob?
At this point I have to remind myself to take a deep breath and just let it flow. This is important if I really like the guy because I tend to be quick to shift my focus elsewhere to prevent getting dissed. Hey...we all do it. If the interest is there or not so be it. If you focus on the 'so now what', you're not focusing on the actual now because you're too busy thinking. That was kind of confusing, but I get ME lol!
Until I ramble again...
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I'm thinking that the 30mph stage equates to "when the masks come off" phase. Learning to appreciate the here and now with this new guy also means that you're probably meeting him for the first time...stuntin removed, and vice versa. If we embrace 30mph maybe we would get to a place that is more real
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