One of my twitter buds, a male, made the statement that dating is overrated. I inquired why and he said, "It's too much these days and people are not real." My reply was simply: What's the alternative? And if you think about it, there is no alternative to dating... in America.
Dating in my opinion, is a necessary evil. Sure it can be fun and if you are a female, a way to eat your favorite foods without paying. ;-) But when you decide to date specifically for the sake of building an actual relationship with someone, that sh*t gets downright annoying. Here's where I totally understand what #oomf was saying when he said, "...people are not real". Some people send their representatives. Some people really don't have the intentions that they say to have in the beginning. This leads to you going through the process of getting to know someone, pre-qualifying them, only to find out a month or two later that it is not going to work. TRUST ME, I would rather find out sooner than later. However the annoying part about that is now you have to start all over again with whomever. Nothing annoys me more than the get to know you questions. Let me make myself clear when I say get to know you questions. I do not like the typical ones like: What do you like to do? Tell me about yourself. I feel that people can be more creative in that process. Luckily for me, I haven't run across too many guys with lack of creativity. Still, the process of getting to know someone can be quite tiring.
My follower went on to say that dating is really more for the female. This may seem true but guys like the company of a pretty lady from time to time. A date will definitely get you some (time). The act of courting is as old as time. History tells us that it is the man who leads. As a southern belle, I like the idea of that. While it may seem like the man is invested more financially in the courtship, he has to remember the reward. Back in the day it was a woman who kept a nice home, bore the children, and handled her biz for her boo. Today, I don't think much of it has changed. Men date for that same reward. Sure with half these chicks around here, it's not that easy but if everyone has gold in their backyard doesn't the price go down?
Am I ever going to stop dating? I hope so (sans my weekly date with my future hubby)! Until then, what time are you picking me up?
As someone who has been in the dating game for a while, there's a mutual benefit for both parties. Truly, when I am sharing time with a woman, I want both of us to enjoy each other's company as much as possible. When we part ways, the anticipation to see each other should be surreal, but not at the point of clingy (it makes sense in my mind).
ReplyDeleteThe dating game has its pluses, but when it's all said and done, sharing all of that time with one person, and one person only, is ideal. It should be that easy; however, it isn't and it's something that will always perplex me, while at the same time, doesn't surprise me at all.
*sighs and goes back to playing Voodoo*