I'm Single. Are you single?

Bored the other night, I came across this video on YouTube.  This guy always cracks me up.  Not to mention that light and bright is a cutie pie.  But aside from all that, I get what he was saying.  As a single woman, I always seem to struggle when it comes to just dating a guy.  I try to date multiple guys at a time and I always let the other parties involved know that I am dating.  I make it clear that dating does not equal having sex with multiple people but like he said, most guys don't really care about that ish.  In my experience, guys up the ante when they feel they are competing against others (regardless of if they really care to pursue a real relationship with me).  They begin to try and maximize their time with me in order to make it hard for me to date anyone else.  I see nothing wrong with this as long as the true intent is to land a great girl and NOT win a competition.  And this really works if I am feeling that specific guy the most.  This almost always happens, which makes dating multiples difficult for me.  There's always one I am going to like more than others, and he moves into what Mr. LaVigne calls the pre-boyfriend stage.  At that point, I don't care to date the others and I shift my focus to the pre-boyfriend.  And that is where I struggle.  I'm single and dating. Should I continue to date other guys until I know for sure what he wants to do?  The 'girl' in me just doesn't know what to do.

Then there is his side of things.  Has he moved me to the pre-girlfriend stage?  Is he still dating the other girls?  My favorite part of the video is when Jerry states that he is dating "like 4-5 girls! (I'm number 6?!)" I laughed hard at that, but that's exactly how I would respond.  Competition turns me away.  I don't like to compete.  I mean really, at what point does he decide that he wants to be in a relationship and when he does number 6 definitely doesn't sound like a front runner. 

This dating thing just confuses me.  They say date like a man.  Well damn it, I have never been a man so I really don't know how this thing goes.  I prefer that any dude I date be honest and hopefully he's not dating 4/5 girls.  Hopefully he's looking for and recognizes quality when he sees it.  I also hope that he recognize if he meshes with me before it gets too far.  That's all a girl can ask for...

Until next time,
SP