Fairy Tales

"The story ends, as stories do
Reality steps into view
No longer living life in paradise - of fairy tales..."

Forget putting my kids to bed with fairytale stories, I'm putting them to bed with Anita Baker's Fairy Tales.  This way my girls will be prepared for womanhood and love.  It's not so much that I don't agree with the fairy tale of finding love; it's that damn Prince Charming that I have issues with.  It's what he represents and what he's done to many women (and men) in this world.  Prince Charming represents a perfection that is impossible to find.  I mean think about it... a white horse?  Most dudes I know with that kind of ride are assholes. LOL!

But no really... the problem with perfection is that it does not exist.  You see what happened to the Black Swan chick.  You will die trying to be perfect or in the case of this blog, you will die waiting on it.  I've heard both men and women nit-picking the things that their significant other doesn't do.  Hell I've been told by a former lover about what I don't do.  Apparently it scared him.  He wanted someone who was going to do all the things that he needed.  And he was released from his contract to find someone who does.  The thing is: that person is going to be missing something too.  Now this is a lesson that I've learned myself.  In my quest to get my fairytale ending, it's one of the biggest lessons that I have learned.  So instead of being obsessed with perfection, I'm looking for a close to perfection.

Is this settling?
Twenty three year old me is probably sucking her teeth and rolling her eyes right now.  You see, she was big on not settling.  Luckily, with age comes wisdom.  I don't think that it is settling.  I see it as maturity.  I'm older and certain things don't matter to me anymore.  So my dream guy list from 23 has some marks through it.  Most of the superficial things are gone and have been replaced with important character traits.  I've also learned not to focus on the things I don't like about a lover.  Because in the end, I may realize that I was sweating the small stuff.  You have to ask yourself: is this (whatever it may be) something that I absolutely can't live without?  So as I move along looking for my last relationship I have to remember that those fairytales are not what they're cracked up to be.  I can't expect the perfect man but I can expect one that's perfect enough.  I just hope he doesn't mind me playing Anita Baker for our daughters every night.